Let them know

When you change behavior for the better thanks to something you learnt from someone, let them know.

If someone did something that led you to change your behavior, that’s incredibly powerful. This isn’t just about making them feel good (it will do that for sure), it is about letting people know that did something that had impact. Even reasonably self aware people tend to be much more aware of their shortcomings than their strengths. And, knowing what you do well or what you do that impacts others is incredibly valuable data.

The other beautiful effect of this habit is selfish – you learn to both notice and appreciate things well done. It begins to feels easy and natural to take a moment to let the store manager know that a store clerk is doing a fantastic job. It also becomes habitual to not just say “he did a good job” but to say “I find her ability to listen carefully and then work toward finding a good solution extremely valuable.”

When this becomes habitual, an amazing other thing happens – you just spend more time grateful for the good things that happen to you. As the saying goes, it isn’t happy people who are thankful, it is thankful people who are happy.

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  • Love this post 🙂

  • Luke Miles

    Reminds me of the lollipop moment ted talk 🙂

    • Yup. Had to go and refresh my memory on that – great talk

  • Loved this reminder, Thank you

  • zainabz

    Thanks for the reminder Rohan. And with that, allow me to let you know how much of an impact your blog has had in my life. I am inspired by your posts every day. I subscribe to more than 10 daily blogs and news feeds but don’t get through all of them most days. And so, on days when I only have 3-4 minutes to read just one post, I always pick yours.
    Your blog has made me more appreciative of the little things. It has reinforced the idea that big results only come after years of slow, committed and focused hard work. And finally it has inspired me to show up everyday and write my own daily blog.
    So, thank you.

    • I am so glad to hear that these notes resonated, Zainab. It is always nice to hear from you here. I am glad for when you take the time to share – and, in this case, I am very touched.

      Thank you for letting me know. 🙂