Expectations

‘Don’t expect’ is a tenet I’ve heard from time to time. The logic is simple of course – ‘if you don’t expect, you don’t get disappointed.’


In my humble opinion, it would take the joy out of life.
Imagine walking into an important meeting without the anxiousness that comes with expectation. Imagine walking out after a great meeting feeling numb.
Imagine receiving THAT call saying the ‘deal is done’/’you got the job’ and just smiling contented.
Why, of course, you had no expectations.
Imagine making a pass at a woman/man and then not bothering to look at his/her reaction?
Isn’t expectation that makes romance memorable? Isn’t expectation what builds into ‘hope’ – that wonderful emotion that helps keep our heads up during tough times? Isn’t that what inspired Gandhi? Isn’t that what inspired Victor Frankl in that tough concentration camp?
If you didn’t expect, would you bother hoping?
More questions than answers. One thing is certain, I am not cut out for the ‘ascetic’ life that involves meditation in the mountains. I love people too much.. and I find expectations to be wonderful things – through them, you taste failure and success, love and disgust, sadness and happiness – through them, you taste life.

0 thoughts on “Expectations

  1. Nice post! :)I come from the “Dont expect” camp, so maybe I can share some points of view!A different logic for not expecting is “Because it doesnt matter”. In other words, the process is more important than the result. The meeting was awesome regardless of how it went because of its significance and the effort put into it.Infact, such a frame of mind keeps you going when there is no hope – when something more fundamental and more certain drives you rather than the possibility of success in the future (ie. hope) – as in the case of Victor Frankl. Or in the case of Gandhi. My point is they would have done what they did even if there was no hope (and if you look at it, there was very little hope). They did what they did because they felt it was the right thing to do. Regardless of what outcome it could lead to.

  2. Hey Nishanth,I see your logic. Where I disagree with you is ‘they would have done what they did even if there was no hope (and if you look at it, there was very little hope)’I don’t agree with the ‘there was very little hope’ part. ‘Very little hope’ in yours, mine or the world’s eyes maybe but in their minds, they had hope that ignited their belief. And that’s what kept them going. In my eyes, fear, hope and love are among the 3 most powerful forces that exist because they have the ability to capture human imagination like no other.

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