Redirecting focus

I find myself in a near constant battle with my mind to keep it focused on things I control. Granted, I’m probably more attention deficit than the average person. But, my mind’s desire to seek out and dwell on situations, relationships and possible future scenarios over which I have no control and which always take me down an unhappy path never ceases to amaze me.

I have only found one way to solve this – constantly work to redirect focus to myself.

Self centeredness is a dirty word in our time. I understand that. I’m in search for a new term – maybe “self focus” – to describe my workaround. The idea is simple – the more time I spend on thinking about stuff outside myself, the more helpless, discontent and unhappy I become. I see my role as that of a driver steering my mind towards thinking about what my priorities are, what I need to get done and how I can do them better.

My mind control program simply reads – when in doubt, redirect focus to self and spend time visualizing and thinking about things you control. Our actions, then, follow these thoughts.

And, that’s where the good stuff lies.

Or, at least, that’s been my limited experience.

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  1. One good term I’ve seen for this is “Circles of concern.” I found this in the work of Byron Katie, although I believe it may have originated elsewhere. The model is three concentric circles, with oneself in the center. These circles are labelled from the inside out as “My business” “Other people’s business” and “God’s business” and the understanding is that the person who can control an item is the one whose business it is. There’s a lot of power in focusing our attention on what we can control. So the useful shorthand question here is “Whose business are you in?”

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