The easiest way to get rid of the obsession with perfect is to simply commit to doing a few things consistently. Imagine you conducted a certain kind of meeting every week. Some weeks are going to be great and some, well, not so great. That’s the beauty about committing to something consistently – you understand how hard it is to repeatedly do simple things right.
It doesn’t mean you don’t hurt when you walk out of something you did knowing it wasn’t perfect. But, you do become more tolerant of the idea over time and make peace with it.
For example, on most days, after I finish writing here, I do a bit of editing and find myself saying – its not perfect but it works. On the rare occasion, I do manage that perfectly edited post. On most days, however, I don’t. There’s always the next thing I need to get to and the aim is just to do my best given the constraints.
My learning has been that perfection is what you make of it. There isn’t any objective measure. In my case, perfection here is thinking about what I’ve learnt, showing up every day and doing my best to communicate these lessons in a manner that makes sense and that, every once a while, leads to something insightful.
The results don’t always reflect it but I’ve learnt to make peace with that and trust the process. As Dory might say, what really matters is that we keep swimming.