There was a time when being “in the know” meant meeting a few members of the community who, combined, had all the news. In one catch up conversation, you learnt who was doing what, marrying whom, living where, etc. Being “in the know”, beyond the evolutionary usefulness of gossip, was a useful asset as it meant you had network intelligence. And, such information had the potential to bring insight.
Now, of course, you don’t need any such catch up. Your life is full of feeds that keep you “in the know” about close friends, acquaintances, and the like. Network intelligence is just one click away.
And, yet, we’re constantly seeking to be “in the know.” So, we’re fed more about the events occurring in the lives of people we’ve met. But, events matter little in the long run. And, a mind overwhelmed by absorbing and keeping track of events has little time in dwell in ideas.
So, maybe, we should go the other way and take pride in a certain amount of obliviousness. What if you knew very little about what was going on in the lives of people you met? What if you only looked them up before a business meeting? And, what if you only paid attention to important events in the lives of those who were close to you?
Community gatherings become old-style fun again. And, besides, this path may just be comparison-free, mindful, and happy.
Worth a try.