Our approach to dealing with bacteria has evolved from trying to eliminate them to working with probiotics or good bacteria. We’ve learnt that attempts to eliminate/disinfect bacteria aren’t helpful in the long run – they will always exist. So, it is in our interest to make sure we have more good bacteria than bad.
Problems work much the same way. It is natural to pin hope on upcoming changes – a new relationship, a new hire, a new job, or a new place – as the solution to all our problems. But, we never eliminate problems (not necessarily a bad thing). And, any hopes of doing so results in inevitable disappointment.
Instead, every change we make involves trading off one set of problems for another. Thus, a better approach to hope is similar to the probiotic approach – the hope would be to spend more and more of our time solving problems that we consider a) worthwhile and b) fun.