Small joys – raiding refrigerators..

There’s something nice about raiding refrigerators at 4AM in the morning..

And I’m starting to wonder why..

Maybe it’s because it was one of those things I really wanted to do as a kid..

And that maybe because setting up a meal was equated to being ‘grown up‘..

Or maybe because it’s just nice making a mess and letting family know ‘I’ve been here’..

Or maybe it gives me this sense of ‘Oh.. I am working so hard, so late!’..

and is a way of letting my family know as well.. haha..

Or maybe it’s nice cleaning up the left overs of the day..

A nice scavenger like feeling, if you get what I mean..

It could also be my love for occasional solitude..

It’s something I haven’t cracked..

But I DO know that there’s something very nice about raiding refrigerators at 4AM in the morning..

as I’m always left with a warm, fuzzy feeling inside after a nice ‘self-microwaved’ meal!

Ta da.. it’s time to sleep.. Happy Sunday everyone! 🙂

2010 Graduates: How to Become a Millionaire

By Kathy Kristof

2010 Graduates, do you want to become rich beyond your wildest dreams? Then I have a quick tip for you: Act poor.

If you do this, for just a little while, you’ll be fast on your way to having a million dollars — or more. That money can buy you a lot of stuff, of course, which would allow you to act rich and show off in no time. But if you’re smart, you’ll use it to buy freedom and give yourself options that the rest of your graduating class won’t have because they just weren’t as smart coming out of the box.

What do I mean by “act poor?” Pretty much act like you have for the past four years. Maybe even live with Mom and Dad for a year or so, promising that you’ll tell them when you’re coming home at night and help with the dishes. (As a parent, I had to say that.) The point of keeping your expenses low is to save your socks off.

Your friends probably won’t be doing this. The moment they get jobs, they’re going to want a better car; fewer roommates; dinners on the town. And that’s ever so tempting to do since you’ve likely suffered through lean years as a college student. And that new job you’re getting could allow you to pay for some luxuries, even if it doesn’t pay a lot.

But there’s a great pay off to living like a college student. If you manage to save really prodigiously for just a couple of years, you can build an emergency fund that will tide you over when times are really bad. And you can get started on long-term stock market investing at the best possible time.

Read the full article here

Great point I think.. 🙂

Of naivety, technology and burning bridges..

I’m reflecting on a smile I had on my face when I watched an exchanged pop up on feed on facebook. It was a kid (or two) who had made it into a prestigious indian university pasting an email from another university abroad using profane language to snub the sender and indicate their choosing the Indian one (and hence, snubbing the other)..

A lot of thoughts popped up right then –

1) The power of technology to potentially ruin somebody popped up. Everything that we say on a platform like facebook is archived practically, forever. The possibility of all our online deeds catching up some day is a worthwhile thought..

2) I think the biggest reason behind my smile was at the naivety of the kid. The last few days have been an eye opener in terms of realizing how small the world really is. Connections seem to be popping up from all over the place..

It works the other way as well. You never really know who you are offending.. and word does go around..

3) Profane language leaves a sour taste in the mouth. (Mine, atleast) Especially when it is used for the purpose of feeling superior. It’s nice to be on a high.. heart goes out to the kid whose many years of hard work have been suitably rewarded but there’s a reason champions of sports like Federer and Nadal are champions.. they win with grace..

4) Another thought that came to me is about burning bridges. I heard a lovely story –

‘I was playing basketball once as a member of my alumni team against my alma mater’s current team. I realized that the guy I was marking was really good so I fouled him and realized he was no good at taking free throws. I kept making small fouls and at some point, he burst out -‘It’s just a game’. And I said ‘Oh yeah.. then let me win!. We did win the game.. but I definitely didn’t make any friends.’

The good thing is that all those who have an urge to get better love to compete. No world record is set in solitary practice.. I learnt that day that it was important to be on top of my game, yet be a nice guy’

5) What of friends who sweated and toiled to make it to the very place being thrown down? 🙂

6) I tend to remove anyone with negative statuses on facebook or gtalk. Life is tough enough without opening my computer and feeding myself more negativity. So, all these kids have been hidden off my feeds forever..

So, let’s say, 5 years later, this kid decides to apply to a top B school and is shortlisted for the interviews, and let’s just say (given the size of the world and my own dreams), I land up to be his alumnus interviewer.. Wouldn’t I have formed an impression long before the kid said ‘Hello?’..

Why am I saying this..

Because the kid’s profane language was used against my alma mater..

And the person made fun of was a friend from the Office of Admissions…

The better you get, the ‘softer’ you get..

Just a thought that popped up in a football game today..

A ‘good touch’ is generally the difference between a good footballer and a great one. What’s a good touch? The ability to bring the ball down seamlessly by taking a soft/light touch..

The most skilled cricketers are those who can handle the toughest of deliveries with soft hands..

The most skilled pianists are those who can bring out the melody while almost caressing the keys..

The toughest leaders are known to tough, but yet so gentle..

It seems the better you are, the softer the touch, the better the skill..

Why, even the famously romantic french men are known to woo women with gentle persuasion.. ha ha..

At the highest level, it’s about being sensitive, it’s about precision..

Applicable in many places, I think.. 🙂

Surely not everyone – Seth Godin

A newspaper asked me the following, which practically set my hair on fire:

What inherent traits would make it easier for someone to becoming a linchpin? Surely not everyone can be a linchpin?

Why not? How dare anyone say that some people aren’t somehow qualified to bring emotional labor to their work, somehow aren’t genetically or culturally endowed with the seeds or instincts or desires to invent new techniques or ideas, or aren’t chosen to connect with other human beings in a way that changes them for the better?
Perhaps we need people to sweep the floor or clean the deep fryer. But it doesn’t have to be you…

Some people want to tell you that your DNA isn’t right, or you’re not from the right family or neighborhood. I think that’s wrongheaded.

Bob Marley grew up in one of the poorest villages in the world. Sir Richard Branson has dyslexia that makes it difficult for him to read. Hugh Masakela grew up in Witbank, a coal mining town. It’s not just musicians and entrepreneurs, of course. The Internet makes it possible for a programmer in Russia or a commentator in South Africa to have an impact on a large group of people as well.

We’ve been culturally brainwashed to believe that the factory approach (average products for average people, compliance, focus on speed and cost) is the one and only way. It’s not.

We make a difference to other people when we give gifts to them, when we bring emotional labor to the table and do work that matters. It’s hard for me to imagine that this is only available to a few. Yes, the cards are unfairly stacked against too many people. Yes, there’s too many barriers and not enough support. But no, your ability to create and contribute isn’t determined at birth. It’s a choice.

Love this.. The amazing thing is the relatively low presence of the abundance mentality..